Tip #127 What Not to Do in a Collaborative Divorce

When you head into your Fort Bend County collaborative divorce, resist creating your own suggested property division. You may think this will be an easy divorce if everyone would just listen to you. If they would just see the wisdom of your property division suggestion, this divorce could be settled quickly.

When you do this in the collaborative setting, you risk looking like you are trying to manipulate the end result. Your ideas might be exactly what will work best for you and your spouse, but it won’t play well if you hand it out at the first or even second meeting.

Your spouse needs to participate in the development of the property division plan. Your spouse needs to feel that his or her needs have been fully considered. Plus, when people participate in creating a solution, they buy into it. They own it. That helps make the agreement stick.

Tracy B. Stewart CPA, PFS, CFF, CDFA, CFP®

What is Collaborative Law?

Collaborative Divorce is a road to a better future for your family

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In Texas, Collaborative Law is a new and innovative dispute resolution process.  It is non-adversarial.  The parties and their attorneys dedicate themselves to resolving all disputes fairly and equitably without Court intervention.  All matters that require Court approval are negotiated and both parties must be in full agreement before anything is presented to the Court.

In Minnesota and California — and other jurisdictions — the process has been in place for as long as ten years and it is an overwhelming success.  Instead of being adversaries, the parties and their respective attorneys work as a team with full disclosure, truthfulness, cooperation, professionalism and compassion to resolve their differences.