Collaborative Divorce vs Going to Court

Collaborative Divorce Has Many Advantages Over Litigation

  • Preserves post-divorce family integrity
  • Reduces stress and animosity
  • Promotes effective communication
  • Provides individual control over each case – not a judge or a jury
  • Reduces costs
  • Protects privacy
  • Agreements made by both are more likely to be adhered to by both

How Does It Work?


The process involves a series of four-way conferences to resolve all of the parties’ issues, including parenting decisions and division of the marital estate.  The number and schedule of these conferences are adapted to meet the parties’ needs.

Respectful Communication

The parties agree to remain civil and respectful with one another and the children throughout the process, setting aside the tendency to blame and resisting the impulse to rehash old hurts during negotiations.

Information Exchange

The parties agree to honest and voluntary disclosure of all pertinent information and documentation.  No tricks! No slight-of-hand!  No hidden agendas!

Collaborative Law Experts

The parties use joint experts, such as financial advisors, mental health professionals, and realtors, thereby reducing expenses dramatically.

Commitment to Settlement

The parties commit to working together to resolve issues and to reach agreements beneficial to all involved.  If an agreement is not reached, the attorneys and experts are all disqualified from proceeding further on an adversarial basis.